Disabled and proud. 28, Cerebral Palsy, in treatment for borderline personality disorder. Mexican. She/her, cis, bi/pan. Feminist. Survivor. Into disability studies.
When you only see yourself depicted on the screen as a sidekick, a villain, a predator, or a joke, how does that affect the way you view yourself in real life?
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“At the end of the day, fat is portrayed mostly just as a joke,” says Lieberman. “Or a monster,” adds Averill. “That’s the two-sided coin.”
To prove something to a friend, please
REBLOG IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES
LIKE IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS DON’T BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES
REBLOGGING SO HARD.
YOU BETTER FUCKING BELIEVE IM REBLOGGING WTF
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im gonna reblog this everytime i see it ,,
REBLOG THIS ALREADY!
I almost liked before I finished reading-
I SHALL BREAK THE REBLOG BUTTON!
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I might be a lil biased, BUT HELL YES ARE ACES/AROS QUEER!!
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HELL YES ARO/ACES ARE QUEER LIKE WTF AH JUUSIDORJKH
I wish there wasn't so much shame surroubding being an incontinent adult. Like it shouldn't be so scary to admit. I remember once I was talking about hooking up with a guy and I told him I wear diapers and he said "Why would you tell me that?" And then stopped talking to me but there's no reason I shouldn't tell people that!! Esp because in that situation he wouldn've found out anyway. But I should be able to openly admit I'm incontinent without shame.
So yeah I'm incontinent and wear diapers. And to any other incontinent adults out there there is nothing dirty or "childish" about being incontinent. I hope one day we can all talk about it without shame💜
If you are over the age of 18 and somebody hasn't already filed you as their dependent this year then PLEASE do yourself a stupid easy favor and file an incomeless tax return because you WILL get the back pay ($1,800) from last year's covid relief and the third payment ($1,400) for free. like literally free. even if you had no income. i know because i was able to do it and it's actually legitimately legal.
The deadline to file was extended to May 17th BTW so you have time!
Idk how to respond to people that don’t know that I’m hard of hearing. If they’re a friend I’m always just inclined to take the joking or sarcastic route with them... new people I’m learning... even with friends... it’s best to just tell them up front...
PLEASE IF SOMEBODY TELLS YOU THAT THEYRE HARD OF HEARING AFTER YOU’VE REPEATED YOURSELF A COUPLE TIMES DO! NOT! SCREAM! AT! THEM!!!!
It’s the most disrespectful thing you can do and it’s the easiest way to get them to ignore you.
Please the best way you can help them understand you is to RAISE your voice somewhat and ENUNCIATE your words, or SLOW DOWN how fast you are speaking.
Don’t try and exaggerate these things... we aren’t children... we just can’t hear well... please realize when you are mumbling and don’t take offense to when we can’t hear you well so please speak clearly...
This is fucking sick. Fuck capitalism and fuck private healthcare. This system is so disgusting. Vote for Bernie Sanders we need Medicare for All.
[Video transcript start: “Alright, y’all like the desk shit, and I’ve got plenty of it. So here’s another scenario: you go to the emergency room, you get a bill for a thousand dollars. The very first thing you do, other than calling and asking for a ‘review of the level of care,’ that’s the first thing you do. While on the phone, while they’re doing that, you also say, ‘I want an itemized bill with every single charge.’
“Now what they’re going to do on the back end of that–because they don’t want you to know that they’ve charged you thirty-seven dollars for a fucking band-aid–they’re going to take that thirty-seven dollar charge right off of there. Before they send you the itemized statement, any of those stupid charges? They’re gonna take them right off. Generally, my bills go from a thousand dollars to seven-hundred and fifty, they take about two-hundred dollars off just for stupid shit. All you have to do is ask for an itemized bill with every charge, and they’re gonna take those charges off, ‘cause they don’t want you to know that they’re charging you thirty-seven dollars for a fucking band-aid, and guess what? That’s how much they charge for a fucking band-aid. So, when you actually can say, ‘You charged me thirty-seven dollars for a band-aid?’ They don’t like that. So they remove-” Audio cuts off mid-sentence and ends.]
Wish I would have known this when I had to go to the hospital a couple years ago. Over 500 dollar bill for a band aid & antibiotic cream that I put on myself 🙃
Dont let them screw you.
You can also write a Letter of Hardship if you’re in financial distress and they’ll reduce the bill drastically. I had a $2.5K ER bill, wrote to the billing department saying I’m unmarried, unemployed, and uninsured, and they knocked it down to $125.
That’s not a typo. $125.
I just went from $975 to $225 thanks to this post.
- Make sure the place where you’re going is accessible! Your date might opt to use a wheelchair that day, and if they’re using a cane, best to make sure there aren’t a silly number of stairs involved in whatever date you’re considering.
- Call ahead to the place to see if wheelchairs are available to borrow if you’re going somewhere that involves a lot of walking and standing around, like a museum.
- If your date is using a cane, they likely only have one arm to hold things. Consider bringing their food/drinks to the table along with yours– let them claim a booth while you get the food!
- Be prepared and willing to be someone’s physical support sometimes, especially if your date is having a rough leg day.
- Be prepared for a Plan B Date: it’s so awesome to have a back-up plan for the date if the day comes around and your person is spoonless. Believe me, it’ll mean a lot.
i just really want to add some from my own experience:
Also remember just because the cane isn’t there doesn’t mean the disability isn’t there. All of these points are still relevant. Be aware. Be considerate.
I want everyone to see this
also the psychological impact of being in pain every day is so taxing like. from childhood we're told that if we're in pain it means that something is wrong, a scuffed knee or a bruised elbow, but we're also taught that pain is always temporary, nothing that a cartoon plaster and a few days' time can't solve. so when you're dealing with chronic pain and your body is screaming at you that something is wrong and banging pots and pans together 25/8 it's like you're constantly on edge, always waiting for things to get even worse, willing things to get better even when your Rational Brain^tm knows that what you're experiencing isn't temporary. it takes so much energy to be this anxious all the time, even on good days it's so draining being in pain every second of every minute of every day. you really have to deconstruct every single thing you've been taught about pain, injury, and healing. i really wish i had a snappy conclusion or a positive note to end on. but i don't. it's just. exhausting!
actually nobody has to contribute anything incredible to society in order to have the right to exist
I don’t want to derail this post, but I keep thinking about it and I honestly think that my attempts to internalize this are exactly my attempts to unlearn my internalized ableism. So much of my self hatred over disability stems from the idea of individualism and the notion that I should be able to take care of myself and that asking for help is abnormal and burdensome and shameful. But genuinely, humans do live in dynamic and overlapping webs of inter-dependency. We all need others’ help to survive. The idea that needing others to survive is shameful is a complete fiction- we inherently need to help each other to survive and that communal system of caring for each other is healthy and good! We should be able to take pride in it. It’s a profound form of love to collectively support and be supported by others.
- soft
- nice hugs
- thigh pillows??? Tiddy pillows??
- none
- fits in ur arms rly nicely
- ur hoodies are too big on her which is beautiful
- none
- abs?? Biceps??? Please???
- strong gf pick me up pls
- most likely works out a lot which is hot
- none
-she can reach everything
-she can wear those gorgeous and long swooshy dresses without drowning in the fabric
-she still rocks heels, I mean, hello??? Tall girls in heels??? Yes??? PLEASE?
- can curb stomp facist easily
-none, you’re just cowardly
- I can give her piggyback rides
- she short which means I can pick her up randomly
- she’s got a better angle for throat punching facist
- great at stealing my clothes and wearing em
- none
- she’s still her own independent person
- she’s intelligent, often times having some of the most profound things to say that people often ignore because they’re stupid
-she’s got a unique lifestyle that’s gonna be best for her and she’s gonna live life as much as she can as comfortably as she can
-stronger than any US marine
-hates fascist
-none
Finally a Tumblr Post that speaks to me
-She stims when she’s happy
-She tells you about her special interests
-She’s super knowledgeable about her favorite topics
-none
This makes me happy.
Me, a short disabled autistic, who needs to be constantly reminded of this:
- Endlessly creative and imaginative.
- Compassionate and understands you aren’t perfect.
- Beautiful mind that is always up to something fun.
- Adapts quickly to help u in a crisis.
- Can be very easy to surprise with flowers if distracted.
- None
I love all of this and I feel appreciated thank you :)
I will as you Tall ADHD Disabled Skinny gf
I will adapt quickly in a crisis when there is a facitst that need to be curb stomped and I will do it in your too big hoodie.
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the only reason I’d want a that 70s show reboot is so I could see eric foreman and buddy morgan living in a little house together for “financial reasons” but even tho there’s two bedrooms only one bed is slept in
